The Right Story

If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave. It took me a long time to realize that I was in the wrong story. I was angry, mad, hurt, depressed, and in quite a bad place mentally, emotionally and physically. I was so focused on the past that I couldn’t live in the present. I…

Letting Go: Anger

For a long, long time, I was very angry with my mother for being an alcoholic. I didn’t understand why she would treat me so terribly and then act like nothing had ever happened. We clashed a lot during my middle school and especially my high school years when I began to understand that it…

Invisible Abuses: Emotional Abuse

Something needs to be said for psychological, verbal, and emotional abuse. These forms of abuse are rarely easy to see. For example, if a person is being physically abused, they sometimes get bruises or cuts. With psychological, verbal, and emotional abuse, the effects are invisible on the outside (in the physical sense). The scars that these forms…

Broken stone

Regarding PTSD

When I was growing up, I only ever understood post-traumatic stress disorder as a thing that I heard about in the news or on the radio, something that war veterans came back with. I wasn’t entirely sure was the ins and outs of the disorder were, but they didn’t sound very pleasant. Jumping at loud…

A human brain scan.

Alzheimer’s and Alcohol Dependence

A study published in Alcohol & Alcoholism has found a significant link between the use of alcohol and the rate of neurodegeneration in Alzheimer’s disease. “Alcohol use, misuse and dependence cause cognitive impairment. We propose alcohol adds to the cognitive burden seen in dementia through additional mechanisms to neurodegenerative processes” (1). For a while, the…

You Are Not Alone

During the recovery process, I have found it immensely helpful to connect with other adult children of alcoholics. They don’t have the exact same experiences or life story that you do, and that’s okay. Many of the struggles they go through on a day-to-day basis are the same ones that I go through and it…

The Friend

The biggest factor in predicting resiliency (the ability to move on from childhood trauma) for the children of addicts (COAs) is whether they had some support in their early life either from another compassionate adult or a friend that they could confide in.* If the COA had a supportive person in their life, they are more likely…