Setting Boundaries

For many adult children of alcoholics (ACOAs), learning how to set boundaries can be a tough pill to swallow. From an early age, we weren’t allowed to say no and we weren’t allowed to express emotions as most normal children are able to. The simply act of crying was often harshly punished or mocked to…

On Powerlessness

You are probably aware of Step 1 for Alcoholics Anonymous, an international fellowship of people that helps support people with a drinking problem. Step 1: “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.” For Al-Anon, the international group which is more geared toward helping the families of alcoholics learn…

The Right Story

If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave. It took me a long time to realize that I was in the wrong story. I was angry, mad, hurt, depressed, and in quite a bad place mentally, emotionally and physically. I was so focused on the past that I couldn’t live in the present. I…

Letting Go: Anger

For a long, long time, I was very angry with my mother for being an alcoholic. I didn’t understand why she would treat me so terribly and then act like nothing had ever happened. We clashed a lot during my middle school and especially my high school years when I began to understand that it…

You Are Not Alone

During the recovery process, I have found it immensely helpful to connect with other adult children of alcoholics. They don’t have the exact same experiences or life story that you do, and that’s okay. Many of the struggles they go through on a day-to-day basis are the same ones that I go through and it…